Because TBD was adopted as a toddler and we were working Really Hard on reinforcing their attachment to both of us, we've done time-ins instead of time-outs -- the LAST thing you want to do to an insecurely attached child is to threaten to separate them from the attachment figure. (This is also why we didn't do sleep training.) This involved holding TBD on one of our laps and talking them down till they were calm enough to stop doing the behavior in question. Most of the time, they were doing it because they were otherwise emotionally disregulated, so calming down was essential.
If not for attachment, we would have tried time-outs, which might have worked better, given TBD's trollish personality. It was very easy for TBD to ramp up misbehavior during time-ins, just because. Removing anyone to troll would have given them a better chance, in those situations, to calm down.
Which is by way of agreeing that different tools are needed for different kids.
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Date: 2018-11-29 03:33 pm (UTC)If not for attachment, we would have tried time-outs, which might have worked better, given TBD's trollish personality. It was very easy for TBD to ramp up misbehavior during time-ins, just because. Removing anyone to troll would have given them a better chance, in those situations, to calm down.
Which is by way of agreeing that different tools are needed for different kids.