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that many autistics I know seem to have at least one narcissistic* parent. (Edit: It's more specific. The ones I'm thinking of have one narcissistic and one probably-autistic parent. I didn't think of it because, duh, you expect autistics to have autistic parents.) And then I went back and edited to say "anecdotally".

And ever since then it's been percolating in my mind. Is this some sort of fluke of the autistics I know, or is it a legit trend? Am I perhaps in my mind blowing up a couple of people into a pattern that doesn't even really exist among people I know?

Hard to say. Has anybody else noticed this, or do you think I'm full of it here?

Edit: I crossposted here and you may want to read Lucy's comment. Additionally, google suggests other people have noticed this trend. And I had to wade through a lot of shitty "is autism really narcissism????" links to find anything useful, so you can thank me for that!

I need better numbers. It's all well and good to say "I think you're wrong, only 10% of the autistics I know are in this situation", but if only 3% of non-autistics with no autistic siblings have a narcissistic parent, well, that's your correlation right there. But I just pulled those numbers out of my butt because I don't have numbers.

Maybe I should go back to google with better search terms.

* Here used in the more informal sense of "unpleasant and/or actually abusive with these character traits" rather than a strictly clinical sense, though I imagine there is some very strong overlap.