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Angandfam. Poor her, she just got a diagnosis of PDD-NOS (I think) for her kid. My guess, based on what I've read, is that she's more autistic than I am, but not nearly as much as some other people. So I've been making a few comments, not overly many, about my sensory issues etc. in an attempt to help her help her daughter. She thanked me, not a problem. Of course, the problem is that I don't know that what relates to me relates also to her daughter. For example, her daughter takes off her shoes the moment she gets in the house, wears sandals all summer, HATES her shoes. So I mentioned that I can't wear shoes that are very heavy (like nike sneakers) or too stiff or that I can't feel the ground in, that this might be a problem. Tennis shoes were the answer for me for a LONG time. Plus I could take the laces out easily (a great plus when you can't tie your shoes....) But while I'm glad to help, I worry that I might be giving her erroneous information as far as her daughter goes... maybe for her it's something completely different? Should I add a disclaimer next time I comment? Or something? *worries unnecessarily*

At any rate, the only thing I said which I feel people might find mildly insulting is that she needs to VERY CAREFULLY check out any program for her kid. Quite a few of those are abusive, and people just don't check. I can't imagine how they can be so stupid, but I mentioned the need to make surprise visits while class is in session.