*blinks*

[conuly]

Article about parents of aspie kids being accused of abuse

Choice quotes:

She and her husband Michael had removed their sons Ben, 15, and Sam, 10, from their schools after they fell prey to severe bullying.

This, we all know, is common with autistic/aspie kids. Common with far too many kids, really. It's the bullies who should be taken out of the schools, but you know nobody would go for that...

"He said: 'Right you are on the at risk register because your parents are abusing you emotionally and physically'," said Ben.

So, they just TELL a kid this? They don't even say "we think that" or "we have reason to believe that" first? So even if the parents are vindicated, this idea is stuck on them!

"The next words out of his mouth were: 'it concerns me you are not into sport and fashion like normal children of your age'."

*cracks up*

Because the kid is, I believe, normal for most autistics, he must be abused? God, base ignorance!

Besides, if he HAD been interested in sports and fashions, people would get upset at that, say he wasn't concentrating on important issues. And he wouldn't be. This is the first I've ever heard that people want children to be shallow.

*grumbles loudly*

Comments

[hopefulnebula]

Far from the last I've heard. Fucking sick.

[strangelette.livejournal.com]

As resident support goddess on my flist, can I hijack this entry briefly to ask you a question about switching comment page styles?

[conuly]

You can, but I almost certainly won't be able to answer it. I have no idea how I did it when I got my paid account, and I have no clue about most style systems questions. Sorry :(

[strangelette.livejournal.com]

Ah! Ditto. I have no idea how I enabeled the "comment with my style" option and now I want it un-enabeled :) I may tip-toe over to support.

You remain support goddess, though, I just don't feel quite so stupid now.

[conuly]

Just to make sure, you *have* checked both your user info page and your customization page, right? And the FAQ?

[strangelette.livejournal.com]

I'm 99% sure it isn't in the customization page but I'm going to keep poking at the userinfo options, it seems like that's where it should be. Especially since that's where the image placeholder option I've been looking for ended up being :)

[strangelette.livejournal.com]

Ah! Just found the answer, more or less, in case you were curious:

http://www.livejournal.com/support/see_request.bml?id=343494

[rainbow-goddess.livejournal.com]

If "being different from other kids" is a sign of parental abuse, I wish someone had investigated my parents for abuse. Maybe I wouldn't have had such a miserable home life then.

[conuly]

*hugs gently*

Nobody gets what they need, do they?

[rachelkachel]

*strangles*

I was never into "sport and fashion" and I'm not even autistic. (Well, possibly slightly. But I'm pretty sure I'm well within the "normal" range.) Have my parents been abusing me? Why wasn't I told?!?

[ruthanolis.livejournal.com]

That's where the kicker is: What actually characterises a normal child? I'd like to know where I went wrong growing up in what I perversely thought was a normal household ...
And why the hell aren't adults given the same super strict guidelines to normality? Or are people not allowed to be different until they reach eighteen?

[conuly]

What actually characterises a normal child?

If we like you, and your parents, you're normal.

And why the hell aren't adults given the same super strict guidelines to normality? Or are people not allowed to be different until they reach eighteen?

1. Because they're ADULTS!
2. They're not allowed to be different then, either, but there's not much that can be done about it.

[tsukikage85.livejournal.com]

Ageism is real... ><;

[ladyshrew.livejournal.com]

That's because most people *are* shallow, and (as from what I know about you) we tend to hang out with deeper and more well-rounded people. :-P

[rantinan.livejournal.com]

Not unbelievable
Unfortunately the correct resoponce is

TO be fucking leavable.

Reckon those socal workers come from the same school of thaught as the minsinformed idiots who kept screwing up my childhood came from.

[tsukikage85.livejournal.com]

This is the first I've ever heard that people want children to be shallow.
Amen. That's messed up. Not that sports, or even neccesarily fashion, are a bad thing, but what kind of evidence of child abuse is that?!

[hopefulnebula]

Far from the last I've heard. Fucking sick.

[strangelette.livejournal.com]

As resident support goddess on my flist, can I hijack this entry briefly to ask you a question about switching comment page styles?

[conuly]

You can, but I almost certainly won't be able to answer it. I have no idea how I did it when I got my paid account, and I have no clue about most style systems questions. Sorry :(

[strangelette.livejournal.com]

Ah! Ditto. I have no idea how I enabeled the "comment with my style" option and now I want it un-enabeled :) I may tip-toe over to support.

You remain support goddess, though, I just don't feel quite so stupid now.

[conuly]

Just to make sure, you *have* checked both your user info page and your customization page, right? And the FAQ?

[strangelette.livejournal.com]

I'm 99% sure it isn't in the customization page but I'm going to keep poking at the userinfo options, it seems like that's where it should be. Especially since that's where the image placeholder option I've been looking for ended up being :)

[strangelette.livejournal.com]

Ah! Just found the answer, more or less, in case you were curious:

http://www.livejournal.com/support/see_request.bml?id=343494

[rainbow-goddess.livejournal.com]

If "being different from other kids" is a sign of parental abuse, I wish someone had investigated my parents for abuse. Maybe I wouldn't have had such a miserable home life then.

[conuly]

*hugs gently*

Nobody gets what they need, do they?

[rachelkachel]

*strangles*

I was never into "sport and fashion" and I'm not even autistic. (Well, possibly slightly. But I'm pretty sure I'm well within the "normal" range.) Have my parents been abusing me? Why wasn't I told?!?

[ruthanolis.livejournal.com]

That's where the kicker is: What actually characterises a normal child? I'd like to know where I went wrong growing up in what I perversely thought was a normal household ...
And why the hell aren't adults given the same super strict guidelines to normality? Or are people not allowed to be different until they reach eighteen?

[conuly]

What actually characterises a normal child?

If we like you, and your parents, you're normal.

And why the hell aren't adults given the same super strict guidelines to normality? Or are people not allowed to be different until they reach eighteen?

1. Because they're ADULTS!
2. They're not allowed to be different then, either, but there's not much that can be done about it.

[tsukikage85.livejournal.com]

Ageism is real... ><;

[ladyshrew.livejournal.com]

That's because most people *are* shallow, and (as from what I know about you) we tend to hang out with deeper and more well-rounded people. :-P

[rantinan.livejournal.com]

Not unbelievable
Unfortunately the correct resoponce is

TO be fucking leavable.

Reckon those socal workers come from the same school of thaught as the minsinformed idiots who kept screwing up my childhood came from.

[tsukikage85.livejournal.com]

This is the first I've ever heard that people want children to be shallow.
Amen. That's messed up. Not that sports, or even neccesarily fashion, are a bad thing, but what kind of evidence of child abuse is that?!