For the last question, several of the above in random order plus a couple you haven't mentioned. Probably my main tactic would be explaining to my children, at somewhat above normal conversational volume, why the person was wrong and what would be a better way of doing things. Even better if the children would ask me, but I don't want to teach them to do that (besides, at 14 and 10 they're a bit old to pull that routine).
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